An Open Letter To My Single Brothers And Sisters (Part 1)

Let’s reason together…

# Singlehood is not a curse. Your perception can determine whether you get the best out of it or not!

Being single is the best opportunity to develop yourself into the person who you need to be in your future . Don’t spend all your life as a single discussing the person you want and looking for the person you want. Spend that time preparing yourself and tuning yourself to be the person you ought to be. Don’t invest your time on the wrong track. Being the right person should be a priority over getting the right person. When you are not the right person and get what you consider the ” right ” person that ain’t equal to a right marriage. I pray you don’t become the negative arithmetic in someone’s destiny.

When you allow loneliness to invade your life, you open gates for insecurity, ungodly suggestions and so forth.Note that Adam was not lonely, Adam was single. It is God who felt the need for a woman by his side. When you feel like you really need a husband or a wife urgently, I suggest that’s not the right time. Marriage is not an emergency. You can rush in and rush out faster, it is not God’s will for divorce. Mistakes and errors before marriage contribute greatly to divorce. Your single season utilized well will play a very big role in cementing your marriage. I encourage you, my single brothers and sisters, to praise God for what you are and put your energy in the right direction. Work on yourself. Let God help your inner man to be what God intends you to be.


# Avoid flattering with people of the opposite sex. Playing around with your opposite sex friends is not being social. It is being foolish. Allowing a man or a woman feel like in love relationship with you when you are not is lack of integrity. Stop allowing those love texts and suggestive gifts, stop those outings and private meetings, flattery talks and so forth. Define your relationships boarders! Don’t get too close. Don’t get too emotional and specialized on each other.

# Avoid sex before marriage. Sex before marriage is not fun at all..The guilt and emptiness that comes with it can’t compare to the temporal relief that you get! Sex before marriage is sin and is called formication! Not testing the waters. Sticking to one sexual partner before marriage is not fidelity, it’s faithful formication! Sex is confined to married people only. One time someone asked why God gave people sexual organs before marriage, he could have waited until marriage to give the organs-My answer is simple: Just because you own a car, doesn’t mean you drive.It is illegal to drive without a driving license. You need a license to be a legalized driver. You must practice self-control.

# Don’t get alternatives for your sexual Demands and feelings. Masturbation is not an alternative for singles neither is pornography! Sexual purity cannot make you unwell.

# Socialize with opposite sex without specialization unless you want to make moves towards courtship and ultimately marriage. Avoid obsession and you’ll be safe.

# Mind people’s lives. Stop wasting peoples lives. Approaching or dating several people, heartbreaking them and so forth is not smartness. Be careful that you don’t go around breaking people’s hearts. You will pay for it. There’s a law of seed sowing and harvesting. Be careful! You should not be the subject of someone’s tears before God.

# Learn about marriage from successful Christian families and couples. You can’t make a conclusion about marriage from people who subscribe to a contrary belief system.

# Mistakes you entertain as a single are likely to be dragged to marriage. If in courtship someone misbehaves, agree that it was a mistake even if you forgive one another. If out of ” love ” you bury the reality, you have validated the error.
Practice self-control in your single years.You’ll need it in marriage. There are reasons that necessitate abstinence. Sex is not oxygen.

# Learn submission. Submission is not slavery. Wives must submit to their husbands. A single girl who is proud is raw material for a terrible proud wife. Submit one to another. Practice submission as a single. It may reduce your Waiting time and also will be a pillar of your marital destiny.

# Brothers learn to be committed. Commitment will reduce commotion in your life. Commitment to your vision and issues of life will demonstrate seriousness in your life.Be able to generate an income. A hungry man cannot feed a hungry wife. Ladies hear me…Never marry an idler. Even if they proposed in tongues.

# Be a consistent learner. You don’t know everything. Be open to learning and growing. Learning does not mean you’re a fool .it means that you acknowledge your ignorance and that’s the first step in the acquisition of knowledge.
Cognisance of your ignorance is a positive step towards eradication of the same.

# Practice hygiene. This may not seem to be spiritual but remember that even the dirtiest person would love a clean person. I’m concerned with the Oduor in our places if worship especially during winter. If every winter your spouse will be subjected to this kind of a mess ( or is subjected to the married) then that’s an ingredient for negative attitude in marriage.

# Never date a non-believer. Never allow them even close to thinking that they can marry you. It is the largest error you can ever make. No matter how good Someone is, if they are not saved you can’t be equally yoked. A handsome Egyptian is an Egyptian and cannot be an Israelite.

# Focus on marriage and not just your wedding. A wedding is for a day, marriage Is for a lifetime.
– a wedding is full of makeup and outward decoration, marriage is about the heart
– Wedding excellence does not translate automatically to an excellent marriage
-Read more about marriage than you do about weddings. Reduce the number of wedding shows and get a mentorship on marriage. Wedding shows don’t reveal the people’s character.some of them are begged to smile and given orientation on their photoshoot.

My prayer for you is that you’ll never make mistakes!
You will be the right person for someone

You’ll grow and fulfill your marital destiny.

You shall never make a mistake in Jesus name

You’ll marry on time.

You’ll be someone’s miracle and not misery.

You’ll not be someone’s problem but a solution.

You will also grow to fulfill your destiny.

” wedding is when two imperfect people making perfect vows with imperfect lips before a perfect God” Myles Munroe.


April 17, 2018 12:40 pm

awesome, blessings

Evelyn Mwanzia
April 22, 2018 5:08 pm

Wonderful.Our generation needs this.

April 17, 2018 1:35 pm

really blessed by this lett

Jane Kago
April 17, 2018 4:35 pm

Great word

Pamela Kendi
April 19, 2018 4:20 pm

God bless and increase you.It’s a challenge and a motivating message to me a single.I conquer with you ,its only a
single person who can get married and if married the more single you become the more your friendship with ur spouse increase.

April 20, 2018 7:06 am

So profound!!!
Thank you for this..Baraka😊

Prince collince
April 21, 2018 11:57 am

I love this

Prince collince
April 21, 2018 12:00 pm

Its the truth ,abstaining from sex does not make you a fool but a faithful person, peer pressure contributes a lot to early sex, our friends brag to us how sex is since they have an experience,,,life is a choice make a choice today and it will define you in future,

Libeya Bethwel
April 24, 2018 1:45 pm

Great and potent counsel. Thank you papa.

Libeya Bethwel
April 24, 2018 1:45 pm

Great and potent counsel. Thank you pala

Grace Kusa
April 25, 2018 12:09 pm

nice!! words of wisdom….thanks much I’ve Learnt, just as you’ve. put it “we should be open to learning and. growing”,we can only grow after we have learnt.

Bett paul
April 26, 2018 6:57 pm

Thanks a lot,let’s work in unison
We need to encourage one another

April 26, 2018 8:28 pm

Wonderful and true for sure

mercy ngugi
April 30, 2018 2:41 am

very encouraging Rose..
God bless you.
have learnt alot

Brenda Bor
April 30, 2018 1:11 pm

Alot of wisdom in it.
Nice read.
Thanks for sharing.

Esther Ndunge Muinde
August 3, 2018 2:58 pm

Wow,inspiring and encouraging . Thanks and God bless you

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